TEEN MOM stars Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra have had a rocky relationship with their daughter’s adoptive parents.
Tyler Baltierra and Catelynn Lowell found fame on 16 & Pregnant when they had their first daughter, CarlyCredit: Instagram/Tyler Baltierra
They put Carly up for adoption with couple Brandon and Theresa taking her homeCredit: MTV
But the young couple who had been together since they were 13 decided to give their baby up for adoption, realising they could not provide her with the best as they came from two broken homes.
Married couple Brandon and Theresa adopted baby Carly – who is now 12 years old – with the process documented on camera.
In the heartwarming birth video, Catelynn and Tyler hugged together as they refused to see their daughter after she was first born.
Tyler whispered words of encouragement to his girlfriend as Carly was taken away from them to be given to her adoptive parents.
The teen couple decided to put Carly up for adoption because they knew they wouldn’t be able to give her a stable life at the timeCredit: Instagram
They have since chosen for her to have a private life away from the MTV cameras, but Catelynn admitted they “text all the time” with their first born.
Since then, the couple who have been together for 16 years, got married and have welcomed two more daughters into the world, Novalee, six, and Vaeda, two.
Catelynn is currently pregnant again with their fourth daughter after suffering a series of heartbreaking miscarriages.
While growing up and expanding their family, the reality star couple have managed to stay in touch with Carly and her adoptive parents, even if it has been “complicated.”
But they have opened up about feeling ‘inferior’ to Carly’s adoptive parentsCredit: Instagram/Catelynn Lowell
“We still have a relationship. I still text her mom to get updates. It’s been good,” Catelynn said in an interview earlier this year.
Catelynn also said in the interview her daughter Nova, six, recently Facetimed with Carly because they had not seen her in two years, due to the Covid pandemic.
“We’ve been trying to get pregnant so we can’t help but think of our first daughter, Carly, who we placed for adoption,” she told the camera crews earlier this year.
“Because of Covid, we haven’t seen her in two years so I feel like we’re missing out on getting to know her.
They regularly would catch-up with Carly and her adoptive parentsCredit: MTV/Teen Mom
“Communication with her adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa, has always been complicated.
“I don’t want to offend them with how we reach out to her.”
The Teen Mom OG star also revealed that she and Tyler have been having communication issues with Carly’s adoptive parents and she worries they might sever their relationship.
She opened up about her concerns during the show’s reunion airing this year, as she spoke about her relationship with Carly and her adoptive parents.
But Brandon and Theresa have since decided to not let Carly in front of the cameras anymoreCredit: MTV
Tyler led the conversation as he explained that even years later, the couple “still feel inferior” to Brandon and Theresa.
“It’s because in the snap of a finger they could take everything away,” the reality star confessed.
The duo admitted their “gratitude” towards Carly’s adoptive parents, though, for allowing them to spend time with their daughter.
Tyler also opened up about having to “filter” communication with Carly through, Brandon and Theresa and why he chose not to write her a letter like Catelynn had.
Catelynn and Tyler opened up about their frustrations at trying to communicate with Carly on the Teen Mom reunionCredit: Instagram/teenmom
“I don’t trust how I say things, I don’t trust myself and how I’m going to explain something and if that’s going to match up with how Brandon and Teresa really want her to get that information,” he said on the reunion show.
“I feel like whatever happens, I have to kind of like filter through Brandon and Theresa first.
“I don’t trust what I’m gonna say sometimes, it’s just very difficult to navigate and feel close in a relationship, when you have to second guess your approach and delivery all the time. It’s anxiety.”
Despite their anxiety, they managed to reunite with Carly and her adoptive parents in June after two years apart.
The couple married in 2015 and have since welcomed two more daughters into the worldCredit: Instagram
The three posed for a picture together, and Dawn tweeted: “Such a fun-filled weekend with a few of my favorite people. @CatelynLowell @TylerBaltierra #12yearvisit #openadoption #love.”
Even with the rocky relationship with Carly’s adoptive parents, Catelynn and Tyler said they don’t regret putting her up for adoption.
The MTV mom revealed she never questions “that decision.”
They are parents to Novalee, six, and Vaeda, two, while Catelynn is pregnant with their fourth childCredit: Refer to Caption
“That would be crazy. We know that we made the right decision. We don’t ever second guess that decision at all.”
She added of how the adoption impacted her relationship with her husband, Tyler, 29: “Honestly, we both really do agree that if we would have parented her at the age of 17—with everything that we went through as fiancés, as boyfriend and girlfriend, as married people together—we don’t really think honestly that we would be together.
“If you throw a child in the mix, mental health stuff, addiction stuff, relationship stuff, it makes it 20 times harder so we never regret that decision at all because we just look at what she has now and we know we did the right thing.”