A MUM has been slammed online for denying her daughter the chance to say goodbye to her dad’s dog.
She was called ‘cruel and unreasonable’ for not letting her 9-year-old daughter get picked up a day earlier than normal by her dad so that she could see his elderly rescue dog before it was euthanised.
The loss of your first pet always leaves a mark on your heartCredit: Getty
Taking to Reddit, the mother wrote: “My daughter loves this dog, and I’ve tried to indulge that as much as possible and the days I have her (her dad) will let (our daughter) video call with him and the dog which I think is a bit extreme but to each their own.”
The former couple got the dog shortly after their daughter was born and he was 6 or 7, so he has lived a long life and grown up with their child.
Her ex-husband told the 29-year-old mum that she was being ‘dramatic, petty and cruel’ for standing in the way of the goodbye, but instead she chose to stick to the court order.
She continued: “He’s sent me several texts saying that I should let (her) be there, and even told her what was going on which IMO was overstepping and I don’t think it’s right for him to contact her behind my back about something involving our co-parenting.
“(She) is also upset at me now, and I’m wondering if I’m being an a**hole now that she knows.”
From over 2,500 comments, the dad and daughter got most of the support after hearing the mothers story.
One wrote: “What if a relative died? ‘Oh sorry, can’t go to the funeral. It’s not on the schedule’. These are the things that drive kids apart from their parents.”
“She wants revenge on her ex,” observed one, saying: “It’s about control. Her spite is more important than her kid’s emotional well being.
Whilst another called it an “unfathomably cruel” situation as some even said that her decision would make her daughter resent her as she did not seem to consider her emotions about her pet at all.
“You should bring her to say goodbye to the dog if you don’t want to blur the custody order. The important thing here is that your nine-year-old should be given the opportunity to say goodbye to a beloved pet and process her grief.”
Most commenters told the mum she was being an a**hole and ‘horrifically cruel.’
Many advised the mum to concentrate on her daughter’s best interests, by letting her see the dog one last time before he was put to sleep.
Another reminded her that: “You are still a team, and treating this so strictly if there is your daughter’s emotional well-being at stake, yes, you are being cruel and unreasonable.
“Your daughter being upset at you should tell you enough, other parents would be elated to see their ex-partner trying to be so productive and caring for their children’s well-being.”
Later on, the mum came back to her post to explain that she had changed her mind and agreed to let her child see her ex’s elderly dog in his last days.
She updated her post, saying: “I thought about it some more and read some of the replies and I realised I was being short sighted and taking out my frustration from the past in a way that would only negatively affect my daughter.
“I’ve talked to (her dad) and we’ve made the agreement that he will pick her up tomorrow to say goodbye and drop her off a day early.”
Her daughter and the dog had grown up togetherCredit: Getty
The mum came round and did the right thing eventuallyCredit: Getty
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