82 relationship questions to get to know your partner better

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If you live with your partner – and have done so during lockdown – you’ll potentially be in something of a rut when it comes to conversation.

With all the doom and gloom in the world, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of pandemic conversations and day-to-day chit chat about work and family.

Those conversations need to happen, but while you’re talking about these things you’re not doing much bonding in the process.

Get back to basics by starting conversations about yourselves, finding out things you perhaps didn’t know and getting deeper in your chats.

These questions might not apply to every couple, but they’re great jumping-off points to get things flowing and revitalise your relationship.

  1. What was your first day at school like?
  2. Which songs would you choose for the soundtrack of your life?
  3. What’s your ultimate sexual fantasy?
  4. Tell me about your dream holiday
  5. Where did you think you’d be at your age when you were a kid?
  6. What’s your happiest memory?
  7. And your worst memory?
  8. How did you get into your chosen field?
  9. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
  10. Do you want kids? If so, how many?
  11. Where’s your ‘happy place’?
  12. Do you have any regrets in life?
  13. What was your first kiss like?
  14. Where do you see yourself when you’re old and grey?
  15. If your house was on fire, what’s the one thing you’d take with you?
  16. Who would you say has been your biggest inspiration?
  17. If the world was ending in 24 hours, how would you spend your last day on earth?
  18. If you weren’t called [their name], which name would you like?
  19. Where would be your ideal place to live?
  20. Which TV show do you watch for comfort?
  21. What were you like during you ‘awkward’ teenage phase?
  22. Do you live to work or work to live?
  23. What would your death row meal be?
  24. What does your morning routine look like?
  25. How do you switch off at the end of a stressful day?
  26. Do you feel it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all?
  27. Which celebrity do people tell you you look like?
  28. Which animal do you think embodies you best?
  29. What would you cook to impress me on a date night?
  30. Would you ever have a threesome?
  31. If you weren’t doing your current job, what do you think you’d be doing?
  32. What’s your ideal night out?
  33. Who’s your best friend and why do they have that status?
  34. If you won the lottery, how would you spend it?
  35. Are you a morning or evening person?
  36. What’s your karaoke song?
  37. What do you spend the most money on?
  38. Which ‘life hack’ would you say you use the most?
  39. Do you prefer shopping online or in person?
  40. How do you feel about exercise?
  41. Would you rather have kinky sex or ‘make love’?
  42. If you were planning your best mate’s stag or hen, what would you plan?
  43. What would be your first law if you were ruler for a day?
  44. How would you describe yourself in three words?
  45. What’s the worst insult anyone’s ever given to you?
  46. What would you do if you had Bernard’s Watch?
  47. Would you rather be rich but unknown or famous but less wealthy?
  48. What’s your stance on reality TV?
  49. Have you ever smoked or taken drugs?
  50. Do you prefer nature or the city?
  51. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
  52. How have you changed in the last 10 years?
  53. What advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?
  54. Do you have a ‘type’?
  55. Savoury or sweet foods?
  56. Would you say you’re more thrifty or a spender?
  57. If you went to university or college, would you do it again if you could go back?
  58. When do you think you ‘peaked’ in life?
  59. Do you have a signature drink?
  60. Do you have a drink you can’t stomach anymore after an unfortunate drunk experience?
  61. Do you follow sports, and if so, who do you support?
  62. Are you a competitive person?
  63. What’s the thing you’re most proud of?
  64. What’s the video online that’s made you laugh most recently?
  65. Which of your family members do you feel has influenced you the most?
  66. Is there something in your life you feel you could try harder at?
  67. What do you need to sleep (such as a dark room or a certain temperature)?
  68. If you could go back to any point in history what would it be?
  69. What’s one thing that instantly perks you up no matter how bad you’re feeling?
  70. Do you prefer Christmas or your birthday?
  71. How do you feel about astrology?
  72. When was the last time you cried?
  73. What do you think is the best movie ever made?
  74. Have you ever had a ‘lucky escape’ in life; a change that felt bad at the time but where you actually dodged a bullet?
  75. What’s your favourite day of the week?
  76. What’s your earliest memory?
  77. Do you have any guilty pleasure movies, TV shows, or music you can’t help but love?
  78. Would you rather watch The World Cup or Eurovision?
  79. If you were to impersonate a celebrity on RuPaul’s Drag Race Snatch Game, who would you impersonate?
  80. What do you think makes you stand out as a person?
  81. How would you describe your sense of style?
  82. Where do you see ‘us’ going?

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