‘It makes me feel more connected with my husband when other women want him’ (Picture: Getty Images/ Mylo)
For today’s instalment of How I Do It, we get a sneak peek into a week in the sex life of a happily married swinger.
Active online under the name VistaWife, she is a 29-year-old bisexual hotwife – a woman who has sexual relationships outside her marriage/partnership with said partner’s full knowledge, usually with a view to fulfilling fantasies.
She’s married to a man with whom she shares children, and she and her husband enjoy swinging on a regular basis.
VistaWife is totally happy with her sex life, saying she can ‘experience’ anything she wants to, ‘from all-female orgies to watching my husband play with our unicorn (a single female who plays with couples) there is nothing off-limits’.
While the pandemic naturally impeded their swinging routine, lockdown did allow them time to have more sex with each other than ever before.
They took the chance to try new things, and she’s since discovered her love of anal, and of being tied up and dominated.
Now that normality has nearly been achieved, they’re back to meeting new people. Without further ado, here’s how they’ve been getting on…
Warning: As you’d expect, this week’s diary features some explicit details about sex, so it’s definitely NSFW.
When I wake up, I do my usual routine. First, I check my texts, WhatsApp, Facebook, and Swinging messages.
I usually get lots of messages on the swinging website, and I delete or block a lot of them due to the other person being rude, not my type, or because they just don’t know how to talk to a woman.
I go to work, and during my break, my husband and/or I respond to more messages we’ve received and start a conversation with them, asking where they’re from, what they’re into – you know, the basic vanilla questions. We’re trying to gauge their intellect to hold a conversation.
When I get home from work, the build-up of not seeing each other all day usually leads to a quickie in the utility room, bathroom, or on the sofa. I expect that will be the case tonight.
We ask a couple we’ve been chatting to when they would be free to meet, since the initial conversation has been good for us, and we swap phone numbers.
After swapping pictures and videos of each other, things can get hot. Personally, seeing another woman begging for my husband’s c**k because she saw how he f***s me is a real turn-on.
My husband loves how much attention the guy is giving me, and yet again, we end up f*****g over the fantasy of the other couple wanting us both. It strangely makes me feel more connected with my husband when other women want him.
We ask the couple if they can do daytime meets – it suits us best as our children are at school, and it gives us the whole day to play without any worries.
We’ve organised a meet for Thursday at 11am. Continuous messaging and a FaceTime call is needed to make sure we still hold the connection as we did via text.
Many other swingers have socials to meet face to face and see if there is an attraction. My husband and I don’t do this.
We’ve been around in the swinging community long enough to spot when someone isn’t suitable for us. It sounds silly to the average person, but how you take a photo and carry a conversation can say a lot to the seasoned swinger.
We go in-depth about our rules and boundaries, making sure everyone knows that rule number one is safe sex.
My husband and I usually don’t have sex the night before a meet – I don’t know why, it’s just a thing we don’t do. So instead, we get an early night in preparation for tomorrow.
After the school drop-off, I head straight home to shower and shave, making sure I’m ready for 11am.
My husband is ready before me and makes sure the house is clean and tidy before our guests arrive.
When they arrive, we invite them in and offer them a drink before heading to the living room to talk.
I give my husband the secret sign to let him know I’m ready to go, and he tells me to give the couple a tour of the house.
When we get to the bedroom, we all know what’s about to happen. Before long, we’ve swapped partners, starting to get undressed and kissing.
While I’m on my knees giving oral to the other guy, my husband is on the bed with the other woman giving her head too. Then things… progress.
When we finish, we lay there all sweaty and laughing about the fantastic time we’ve just had.
After the couple leaves, my husband and I have this urge to be close together and connected.
A feeling of appreciation for each other takes over us, and we jump on one another and f**k again. The feeling of love explodes, and I can’t get enough of him.
When we’ve finished for the second time, a day of long kissing and cuddling ensues.
The feeling of appreciation and connection is still there with my husband; it doesn’t ever go away, but when you’ve f****d someone else and watched him with another woman, it feels 100 times stronger.
Again, we’re f*****g all the way through the night.
After our late Friday night, I’ve promised myself an early night.
When we get into bed and settle down to watch Netflix, I can’t help but let my mind wander to what happened on Thursday.
My hand drifts over to my husband, and he’s already rock hard. We have a quickie while we watch TV.
Tonight will 100% be an early night for us. We’ve exhausted ourselves from all the high emotions and late nights.
We plan on uploading a couple of pictures that we’ve taken from our shenanigans on Thursday to the Swingers website and hit the sack early.
This whole process will repeat and by Monday, we’ll have an inbox full of messages. I’m sure someone will capture our eye again.
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