A PSYCHOTHERAPIST has revealed the one question she asks people that reveals if they are in the right relationship.
Stina Sanders is a therapist who specialises in relationships and often shares her advice on her TikTok account.
Stina Sanders provides useful relationship and dating advice on her TikTok accountCredit: tiktok/@stinasanders
The London-based therapist has appeared on TV shows such as This Morning to highlight the signs of narcissism and gaslighting, and has even written a book warning women of the red flags.
In one of her TikTok videos, she reveals the simple questions she ask people who are not sure whether they want to continue their relationship.
Stina said: “When a client asks should I stay in my relationship, I ask them this question.
“Is your partner inspiring you and supporting you to grow, or are they preventing you from growing?
“At the end of the day that is what it all comes down to.
“Do you feel supported or do you feel that your partner is holding you back?”
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Stina also said she often turns the question back to her client and asks them if they are supporting their partner to grow, or are they holding them back, as it works both ways.
She added: “The next time you’re questioning your relationship, ask yourself this question; do I feel supported, and am I supporting my partner, or are you both holding each other back?”
In a separate video, Stina revealed ways that can help get over your failed relationship if you do decide to leave.
She said therapists will often use the ‘miracle question’ with clients who are going through a breakup.
Stina explained that the miracle question is asking if you could wake up tomorrow with the perfect life what would it look like?
This can help you realise why that perfect life would make you feel better and identify any issues that are stopping you from getting that, such as; low self-esteem or broken trust.
Users on the app were grateful for Stina’s tips, one wrote: “Those are great points, thank you!”
“Thank you for sharing – I’m going through a breakup and this video really got me thinking about those points, it’s actually very helpful.” Wrote another user.
Stina said if you and you’re partner are not supporting each other to grow, it could be time to call it quitsCredit: tiktok/@stinasanders
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