A SEXPERT has revealed the gross habit men need to stop “immediately”.
Nadia Bokody, from Sydney, argues lots of men have terrible hygiene – and says it brings a whole new meaning to the phrase “toxic masculinity”.
Nadia Bokody has revealed the ‘gross’ habit men need to stop, which ‘brings a whole new meaning to toxic masculinity’Credit: Instagram
Writing for news.com.au, she cites a 2018 poll which showed just 84 per cent of men felt washing their hands after using the toilet was “very important”, compared to 91 per cent of ladies.
Meanwhile, she says “thousands” of women have taken to Reddit to ask how they can get their husband to stop leaving skid marks.
Nadia said: “Perhaps we have toxic masculinity all wrong. Maybe ‘toxic’ was actually meant in reference to the hazardous odours emanating from men’s unwashed bodies?
“In all seriousness, male hygiene, and the abysmally low standard we set for it, serves as yet another nod to the gendered double standards that dominate heterosexual relationships.”
Nadia says all her female friends “practice intensive grooming regimes to ensure their vulvas look and smell fresh prior to sex”.
This includes everything from laser hair removal to a pre-sex shower or, at the bare minimum, using freshening feminine wipes.
Nadia says the difference between men and women in terms of grooming habits is shocking – and needs to changeCredit: Nadia Bokody
She added: “Troublingly, most of the women I spoke to while writing this story, said they’d had a male partner degrade the appearance or smell of their genitals, despite maintaining levels of personal hygiene that would put most of the men I know to shame.
“What’s most striking about the thousands of posts on Reddit and Twitter from women sharing horror stories of their male partners’ bathroom habits, is the apologetic tone of the women.”
This, Nadia says, echoes the tone of the couples who come to her with sexual problems, with both of them tending to blame the woman.
What’s more, a study published in BMC Women’s Health found up to 53 per cent of women use feminine cleansing sprays, despite the increased risk of bacterial vaginosis.
On the other hand, in an NHS document designed to educate men on proper genital hygiene, sexual health consultant Patrick French writes: “It’s really surprising how many men don’t clean underneath their foreskin.
“Not only do they regularly develop complications from poor hygiene, but it’s also very off-putting for a sexual partner.”
Nadia added: “In short, while women are quite literally cleaning ourselves sick, men aren’t wiping their bums or washing their penises.”
She argues this needs to change – and us women aren’t powerless to help.
Nadia says women need to stop letting their partners getting away with it, stop apologising for things which aren’t their fault and stop opening up to Reddit instead of the man in question.
Yesterday one mum revealed how she has a two-hour sex window, and advised men to make their move before 9.30pm.